Own all your true callings
“My Personal flow of life from labelling myself as an architect to an influencer to calling myself an explorative artist and owning it all!”
Well if you are left wondering that “No Labels Please – former title option of this blog” is coming from a space of commitment phobia, let me tell you that it means expansion in all its terms. I want to provoke that thought in you that sky is the limit if we don’t constrict ourselves in certain tags of who we really are.
This Christmas more than unboxing gifts I want everyone to unbox themselves. Unboxing ourselves from labels that might mean to define us but can rather sometimes limit us in a fixated certainty. Talking about labels what do they do? Do they define us? Or do they limit us. Do they categorize us? Do they constrict us?
By no means we want to litter around the mentality of being commitment phobias. This is about exploring what all can we do. This is about why societal tags do us little good. This is about why we need to flow in life, flow in life with our wishes, with our possibilities, This is about the satisfaction of being limitless. Seeing yourself in the bigger picture and believing that the sky is the limit.
Changing with time is inevitable and, once you have mastered a skill the growth lies in not getting comfortable in that label for an entire life and growing into what’s next. It’s about keeping that zest to learn and explore alive. It’s about leaving that zone of comfort to evolve into something big.
If you are following my personal journey this year you know how I want to acquire various talents and nurture them specially in 2019. Past six months have been enlightening in my life to zero down onto things that actually matter to me the most. Like when they say it,” Heart wants what it wants.” I have truly started listening to that and even if it wants me to do thousand things, I am ready to go for it as long as I am living.
In one life, it’s lazy to have just one purpose, who knows I might have thousand different purposes in this lifetime. I am going to flow with it. I am going to listen to every beat of my heart that adds to the bundles of experiences. And I am going to do only those things that tick my bones, that move me, that makes me go weak in my knees and thrill every beat of my heart to dance with joy of that added sweet little adrenaline.
Talking about labels, I often have Indian relatives, coming home and asking my parents about,” What is the use of my architecture degree?” when I am doing is modelling. Well they ain’t wrong hundred percent because people who think like me might be very few in this world. Also they don’t know my full story, They don’t know anything about where my energy flows and how I am aware of my multiple talents and pick up opportunities that come my way.
Here is how the story of labels flowing in my life has been like. I really want to stand by my choices and the paths I took along the way. Things haven’t always been easy, but I have found my escape of finding myself little by little in these labels I have owned.
MY JOURNEY OF LABELS I ALWAYS WANT TO STAND BY:
A Poetess by 2005
I still have a red diary where I wrote my first poem on my 8th standard class teacher. I recited it for her in front of the class on Teachers Day. It was for Rita Miss, my Hindi Teacher. My second poetry was for my sister. My third poetry was for my Tuition teacher. I still have that red diary with hand written poetry. I had even put a 5 star rating under each poem by myself because hey, No body can rate me, but me!
An Artist/ Painter by 2010
After completing my 12th standard in science. I made my entire family upset by joining a drawing class instead of joining medical. I learnt to draw because I wanted to pursue architecture. I took an year off only so that I could draw. So I became a painter, an artist in 2010. I have more than 10-15 drawing pads filled with building sculptures, human figures, trees and all sort of 3D sketches. Until 12th I never attended drawing class in school but here I was with my new found passion, a new label – I had become good at painting. I became an artist in 2010.
An Instagram Influencer by 2014
While studying architecture in the second half of my 3rd year, I was also drawn into being expressive about my personal style in photos, I started posting my daily college and off-college OOTD on my Instagram wall. Initially I started off as (@iiswatyii) on Instagram inspired by @iisuperwomanii. My friend had gifted me an Iphone 5C which was the only mode of my initial pictures. My Instagram account started picking up and in time I was getting queries for brand collaborations. So there it was, I was an Instagrammer by 2014 with no idea of where it might be going.
A Fashion Blogger by 2015
When I was still studying architecture, I owned my calling for fashion by starting my fashion blog I realised I was opinionated and my photos needed to be documented in a more credible manner. I wanted to have a very significant entity that day. I still remember that feeling because I haven’t felt something so strongly ever in my life than that very day. I shortlisted nearly 4 names and there it was one of the option. When I recited Arch Attire I knew my life was going to change from here on. Because I felt that energy, I felt that power in that moment. Having no idea about the website development. I figured everything out in maximum 3 hours and there it was I had my first blog published on my blog website. Not even well versed with grammar. I published my blog and circulated to everyone I knew without any fear of being judged. Initially I heard rumours of me being laughed at, but I saw a bigger picture and knew there was no stopping. There was also an incident where a classmate changed the class group name to UN- Arch Attire. And that made me realise about my strong move that people wanted to axe from that beginning. I kept my zest really strong and I really want to thank god for giving me a conviction like a lioness from the very beginning. I wasn’t perfect in my work when I started and that is why my journey is so special to me. Here are my first 3 blogs, that I was may be laughed about and I am never going to take them down because they made me who I am. The mistakes made me strong, the bullying made me stronger. And the parallel love from the readers I got was surreal too.
Blog Link 3 //thearchattire.com/bohemian-fashion/
It’s been 4.5 years since I started my blog, I write about fashion, architecture, lifestyle, travel, spirituality and self motivation, poetry. I have had total impressions of 10.5 Million across all the platforms in all these years. Having worked with more than 800 brands and been travelled to 7 countries to cover almost all the global fashion weeks since past 10 seasons,I have realised I am not in it for the number game or the competition with others. I am here for self-expression, I am here to make real connections with real people. I am here to have my own blog family where everyone matters to me just as much. Where every one is a credible member, not a number on my demographics. I am grateful for each experience yet I still feel this is still the beginning and I am not going to get comfortable at this.
A writer by 2015: After writing blogs after blogs, my language became more polished. I learnt how to channelize the context in your writing and how to stick to a certain topic and theme. I also understood the impact of an intriguing title. Writing blogs also required me to excel in my research skills which I acquired by reading a lot of e-magazine articles on fashion and travel. I am grateful to all my 16700 subscribers on my blog website.
A Digital Marketer by 2016
Being in the blogging business I understood how the industry works from inside, having understood the marketing aspect of it and using the immense network I had with co-blogger community, the brands also demanded me to facilitate them with other blog influencers like me. With that I started my own ‘Digital Influencer Networking Agency’ that started handling and executing the entire brand campaigns. I have successfully carried out more than 15 Influencer campaigns that has given brand deals to more than 100 bloggers in the past with the help of my team of 12 executives. With the grace of God, I aim to establish this business even more.
A Meditator by 2016
I might not be able to give one significant moment when my spiritual inclination happened but beneath it all I know each one of us is a spiritual being. I always felt I had too many questions and 2016 came to be that year that showed me that how all answers are within us, all the powers of the universe are within us, the god we are searching in religions, temples, mosques, lies within us, within our every breath. So whenever I was anxious and did not not know the way forward all I started to do was close my eyes and feel the power within and surrender to a thoughtless state of mind. Ever since I have started meditating, the universe has changed so much for me. Situations unfold in your favour and you are just sitting there amazed about how all of that happened. When you want to do so many things it’s important to surrender first. Surrender to that power that is beating inside your very heart.
An Architect by 2017
While my blog picked up I also got myself the professional architecture degree which is going to my identity for the rest of my life. I earnt an Ar. Prefix that no one can take away from me. Along this academic journey I realised how I enjoyed the whole process of visualizing homes, spaces. During Architectural designing my proposed designs were too whimsical or may be out of fantasy land for the jurors. I always dreamt of the experiences the people living in would have if I designed that space in a significant way. In my academics I have proposed designs for: Vacation home for a fashion designer, Kiosk Centre at Band Stand, A bungalow Complex at Alibaug, Residential Tower at Shivaji Park Mumbai, Mahim Sea Front Design, Mumbai Airport, Palliative Care Centre at Pune, Shopping Mall and I passed my architecture degree with my design thesis for “Jammu & Kashmir Cultural Centre. And I have to say that the timing of my result day was so beautifully planned by God. I was going through a biggest setback and the news that I was an architect finally healed me so much. My architecture degree healed me, it empowered me, it made a lot of mouths shut. It gave peace to my parents and gave me a respectable identity no one can take away from me for the rest of my life. Thank you 2017.
A traveller by 2018
From 2015 I was wanting to travel and create content around the globe. However, I wasn’t sure when that would happen. At around 2017 life shifted in a way that I wanted to do things all by myself. Just when I needed this I got an email from an agency handling Paris Fashion Week and I was invited. Just like every time I thought how can I go. But then surprisingly when I told my dad he supported to me to just go. That was the beginning of my solo travel adventures and I travelled six times to six different countries after that in just 1 year. The memories you make being on your own, the emotions you create with the place are surreal. It is that overwhelming feeling to know how you are connected with unseen places in this universe. The different people, the different culture, unseen paths add so much adventure. And when you talk to people you realise humans are just the same no matter where they are from. Little bit broken yet little bit strong.
A Make Up Artist by 2018
If there is one thing that can change my personality, my behaviour in a minute, then you should see how my mood transforms when I do my makeup myself. This is something I learnt on myself by getting ready for photoshoots every time. My favourite makeup process is contouring my face and really playing with a colourful pout. Nude Makeup look is my current favourite these which I tried in my first visit to Paris. Sometimes the make up products are gifted to me by PR companies. But mostly I buy my own vanity.
A Social Media Designer by 2018
I can’t begin to tell you how much time I wasted in the late 2018 just to challenge my creativity. I am not a graphic designer however I spent a lot of time designing layouts for my own Instagram stories. There came a point when I made a separate page to just show my editorial skills. I am going to link my beauty portfolio page here //www.instagram.com/archattire_beauty/
Let me know if you think I could use this passion in a more serious form. However doing this requires me to really put on some music and be in that carefree zone that is so inhibited.
A lyricist in 2019
When I have been low, I have found my solace in writing raps, writing songs and I have shared them with only the closest people in my life. Even when days have been faded I have had a cry of voice within me that tells me to hold on to that self-belief and that cry for help has flown into writing raps and songs. Some day maybe I can show it to the world, but it has also been my escape. This year I have written 4 songs. For now I know I have enough content incase I start my youtube channel any time soon. Life is progressing in a flow and one day it will all fall into place in it’s right time.
A Singer by 2019
I have been singing since 5 years old. I have hundred of video cassette recordings done by my mom of me singing and dancing Bollywood songs. But I never learnt it professionally. I kept singing however I felt something was always missing. From doing so many things it is only and only singing that makes me feel that the entire world just stops and there is pure solace of me escaping in that moment. No other activity gives me this pleasure. Singing is my hobby, I don’t know how good I sound as I never paid attention to it. But since 3 months. I decided to master all my skills and become my best version. I finally have taken up Classes for classical singing. Trying to master my vocals, learning 12 surs properly. Because one thing is for sure, if there is any thing that comes to me straight from the heart it is music indeed.
An Athlete by 2019
The people I met, the kind of conversations I have had, the situations I was stuck into, I want to say that they all inspired me to break the cycles I was stuck into. After visiting India Couture Week Delhi in July 2019, I fell in love with myself, something made me stop the self-hate and that is where the change happened. I met some really great people who healed me. I took up 100 Days Fitness challenge. I started Intermittent fasting. Today 115 Days later I have lost nearly 18 kg weight and have become a true fitness freak. I do not want to lose this part of me ever.
An Explorer for Life
I don’t mean to say that, I have conquered a million things in life, but the thing is that I am drawn to multiple things. Sometimes that hurts the people who are close to me, sometimes they think I am distracted. But that is not how I see it. I feel we must nurture each and every calling. If am an architect it is okay for me to write a rap on a Thursday morning. That is not being jobless, that is a topping on your pizza, think of it as an icing on the cake. Because that is how I see it. I love each and every label. I don’t want any one label to wrap or cage me or box me in my limits. I want to break free and be able to do things I never thought I could do. I want to shock myself. So now I know what else calls me and I am currently on a journey to better each and every skill I am still drawn to. Hoping by 2020 I can add to another beautiful label that I am secretly working for. With Universe and me on my own side I know everything will be manifested right.
Here is the thing about labels, you can have multiple labels in life. If you are working as a marketing manager in a company, you can have a parallel career in music too, you can run a parallel home grown business too, it’s not about leaving a label, it’s about being an overachiever. It’s about acquiring multiple status in life.
When you start peeling your layers, you will be overwhelmed to see how you have so many talents you didn’t even know existed. As long as you have a calling, a sweet little desire in your heart that might sound a bit off track from what you have been doing from years, can be greatly accomplished if you stand by it, if you start owning it. Hope this is exactly what you needed to hear today to become a go-getter in coming 2020! Hoping all my readers end this decade on a right note and find their true callings in the blissful 2020!
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Story: Swati Sharma | Model: Swati Sharma | MakeUp: Cezenia | Photography: Karishma
Season’s Greetings and A Very Happy New Year